Why I Believe the Final Stage of Grief Lasts Forever after Losing My Mom
The final stage of grief lasts forever. My mother has been dead for 10 years. But I’ve been grieving her loss for over 15 years.
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Your Grief Does Not Make Me Uncomfortable because I’ve Been There, Too
Your grief does not make me uncomfortable. I won’t try to fix your grief. I won’t tell you platitudes like, “They’re in a better place,” or, “At least you had x amount of time with them.” I won’t dismiss or invalidate your feelings. I won’t tell you not to cry. I won’t tell you that…
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Why Your Birthdays Feel So Very Different when Your Mother is Dead
Birthdays feel different when your mother is dead. No one makes you feel special the way that she did. Why your birthdays feel so very different when your mother is dead No one starts your morning with a phone call the way that she did. And no one buys you a dozen pink roses the…
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The Expected Death of a Loved One Still Hurts Terribly
The expected death of a loved one still hurts terribly. My mother lived with early onset Alzheimer’s disease for over a decade. She lived in a nursing home with advanced dementia for almost five years. And she lived on hospice care for two years. I prepared for her death for years. I was relieved, of…
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45 Best Funeral Songs and Hymns to Say Goodbye to a Loved One
I’ve planned three funerals, one for my mom and one for each of her parents. So I’ve had some time to think about funeral songs. A couple of my favorites are Alan Jackson’s version of Blessed Assurance (makes me cry every time I hear it) and Ed Sheeran’s Supermarket Flowers. I also love Randy Travis’…
